During my last experience I learn 2 very important things. One is how consuming it is to keep a false image of yourself and the second how we always ignore the bad stuff, the negative things in life instead of using them.

What is stopping you from being free most of the time is the idea that you create about yourself, the idea that you are trying to sell to everyone.

That Facebook image, where you are so perfect in every single point, no defects.

A dear person to me, had a big party not too long ago, in the morning she was a total mess, almost in tears telling me:

“Why do I feel like this, why do I do the same mistakes over and over again, it s like I never learn…”

So I was trying to push her in the direction of the true answer.

“So what happened? you seem to have fun last night, dancing long hours, nice discussions, why the guilt?… of course you are going to feel awful physically but that is no reason to feel like that. ”

Finally, after some time she had come to the conclusion that is not about the night, it s about the image she so hardly built and in one night everything was ruined.

But I had to continue “You mean the false image, that office girl, into sports, reading, always doing only the good stuff, eating healthy, that person that everyone tries to become, that perfect woman, that idea that you are better than everyone.

We all know that is not true, you know that too, you know you are lonely, you know you need attention, you know you do mistakes, you know that there is so much shit going to your life, that you will feel very vulnerable making this public. Ohh that image :)”

We all pretend to be something we are not, and we do it so hard, working hard every day, keeping that false image, so people can look up to us, respect us, like us, so we can be part of this society. People are to scare of being alone.

The truth is you are building this image, just because, what you are inside is not enough, you feel like empty, you feel no passion about life, you feel you don’t really know who you are and you need somebody from the outside to make you feel good, because you’re not capable on yourself.

So this is the problem you should address, trying to know more about you, rather than spending years trying to be something else, impressing others.

This life is about your enjoyment, not pleasing others.

So happiness, true happiness, not the one you put on Facebook and publicly, true full happiness will never happened until you are honest with yourself.

Start from the bottom, admit you are stupid, you are weak, you are human, sometimes you don t know how to act, what to do, accept your fears, and then start doing something about them.

This is the moment you gain some freedom, when you care about your development and investing in yourself rather than raising to the expectation of others.

There are 2 beautiful story about this kind of experience.

The one is about your freedom and when you know you start being an achieved human being.

In the beginning when you go into a room, full of people,  your first thought coming in your mind is “Will somebody like me?”

Now this is the begging of your life, later on, something changes in the phrase “Will I like somebody?” Because life is not about them, or making them like you, is about you being comfortable in your own skin. This is the moment you start growing.

It is the same way we start relationships 95% of them are all going to the toilet. Every time you meet a person you always showing your good stuff, all the things you are proud of.

“Yes I am an engineer. I have a big Porsche and i own a vacation home in Ibiza. I am such a good athlete, during university I was the first in my class.”

And this conversation goes  on and on, until you finish all the things you can brag about.

Then, silence, and she starts 🙂 …it is like a competition of who is the best and how great they are. Who is dominating.

The problem is that you start wrong, you should start with your bad stuff, and if that person will love you for the worst thing you may have, everything that you will do good will be a bonus.

So start being you, every one of us is human.

The next story is a story that I really come to love…

Sadhguru bullshit joke

(This is a funny joke, often told by Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev to emphasise on the importance of right philosophy)

It once happened, on a certain day, a bull and a pheasant were grazing on the field. The bull was grazing on the grass, the pheasant was picking ticks off the bull; they are partners, you know?

Then the pheasant looked at a huge tree which was at the edge of the field, and very nostalgically said, “Alas, there was a time when I could fly to the top most branch of the tree, but today I do not have the strength in my wings, even to fly to the first branch of the tree”

The bull very nonchalantly said, “That’s no problem! Eat a little bit of my dung every day, you will see, within a fortnight’s time you will reach the top of the tree.”

The pheasant said, “Come on!! What kind of rubbish is that?”

The bull replied, “Really, try it and see. The whole humanity is on it… ”

Very hesitantly, the pheasant started pecking at the dung, and lo, on the very first day it reached the first branch of the tree. In a fortnight’s time, it reached the topmost branch of the tree. It just went and sat on the topmost branch and just enjoyed the scenery. The old farmer saw a fat old pheasant on the top of the tree. He took out his shotgun and shot him off the tree. So the moral of the story is: many times even bullshit can get you to the top, but it never lets you stay there.

So please stop eating shit. You are like us in the same boat, stop acting like you are a god sent here to save us.

Life is beautiful, when you stop thinking shit about yourself. You are what you are, and you’re doing your best to be a better version of yourself, and guess what you are not alone we are all doing the same thing.

So start doing small changes to your life, release yourself of this fake image, and you will see how life will become this easy thing to carry on.

You are just you, and it is amazing, extraordinary, be more confident, pay more attention, fear less.